When a person has been in a long term relationship, they have gotten comfortable with one person. They know that person's needs and wants and cater to them. Whether it is death or divorce that takes away a long term partner, a person must now begin the search for a new partner. This is a difficult process for many. They must learn how to approach and get to know other people. Doing this may be uncomfortable. Worst of all is the tendency to compare each new person with the one who is gone. Until these two issues are put to rest, dating may never be successful. Learning how to become comfortable and taking new people on their own merits is when the dating process will finally have a chance for success.